5 Free Ways To Make Your Significant Other Happy

“The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.”-Unknown

In the hustle and bustle of life, important matters began to drift away. The simple things. The ordinary things that can change the day, and in the long run change your relationship.

Here are 5 FREE ways to make your significant other happy.

Happy is a subjective term. Happy is relative to each person, and each relationship. Yet, at the end of the day, everyone simply wants to feel loved. Simple reminders that you care, that don’t cost a thing to show or give.

  • Say I love you. In the midst of your crazy day, or in anticipation of one, saying I love you could change their day. Do you remember the scene in The King Of Queens when Carrie was on the phone with her boss, at the end of the call accidentally said I love you. We must make sure not to allow those three little words to become habit, a figure of speech at the end of our calls, as to deteriorate the meaning to your significant other.
  •  Mid day text to let them know your thinking about them. Showing you care for someone comes in a million tiny insignificant ways. Like “Buckle your seat belt”, “Lock the door”, “Text me when you arrive”. In a virtual society, saying “Hey” will bring a smile for the rest of there day. Use Pinterest to your advantage, look up cute antidotes to share and make them your own.
  • Hugs and Kisses When you part to go to work, when you come home and before you go to sleep.
  • Don’t wait to long to complete or work on the “Honey Do List”. Remember to complete the task or chore they asked your help with. When you remember to do something your significant other asked, or remember something they said, it’ll bring a little light to their day, showing you truly listen.
  • Does your neighbor have any roses in their garden that won’t be missed? While it may seem simple, picking a flower for your S.O will show them you thought of them along your way. What the flower will truly show to be a gesture, and less of an item.

The beauty is in the little things. In the things that we so easily forget to do, but can make a world of difference. Remember to tell someone you love them tonight.

P.S You’ll be alright

How To Impress On An Interview – From An HR Manager

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As a Human Resource Manager these are some tips I would give to potential applicants coming to us for an interview. Whether you are cool and collected, or nervous as can be, just breathe.

While most times desperation and hunger fuels a job search, you need to evaluate if this company is a good match for you. Here are somethings I wish applicants knew before they came to me for an interview.

1. Research the company. Check their website and reviews. Obtain as much information as possible, when you interview you will be educated as to the company and their mission. Not only do you want to impress them, but you also want to know what you are potentially going to experience on the job. Do not be afraid to ask them questions as well, showing the interviewer this is more than a 9-5 to you.
2. Bring your required documentation: The posting for the position will list documents necessary for interview. i.e.: Resume, References, Degrees, Certifications, etc. Bringing these documents will show the initiative you take, showing your organization, and preparedness.
3. Dress to impress. Depending on the position your applying for will be what you wear to the interview.
4. Arrive in a timely manner. This is a foresight of what you will be like as an employee. If late due to unforeseen circumstances, call the interviewer, you may be able to reschedule.
5. Prepare beforehand on the questions that will be asked according to the position you will be applying for. General questions asked will be:

  •  Why are you looking for a new position?
  • What are your responsibilities at your current or last position?
  •  What can you tell me about yourself?
  • What are your strengths and weaknesses?
  • Are you a team player?
  •  How do you handle a conflict with a client, customer, or co worker?
  • Why do you feel you will be a good fit for this position and where can you see yourself in the next 5 years?

This is the first installment in my Human Resource Manager series, comment your questions and I may include the answers in my next addition of this series. If you are curious as to what are the prime answers to these questions, I would be happy to share the “perfect” answers.

How To; Curly Hair

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I grew up in a time when relaxers were the ultimate fix. Living in a humid climate didn’t make it any simpler. I found myself with mostly frizz. The story of my life was hair with a mind of its own. I have always hoped and dreamed for the perfect curls. Endlessly trying products, and yet again struggling for the right combinations. Which brings us to today. I have found what works for my hair, in the struggle, for the perfect curl in a curl confused world.

Growing up in the 70’s didn’t leave many options for curly hair care. We had an era of relaxed hair. A lack on curly hair education or lack of access to the proper products resulted in the worst hair styles of my life.

A distinct memory of my life was going to the hair salon in Burdines. The hair stylist didn’t see any other solution to my damaged hair than to cut it all off. Leaving a 13 year old with a near buzz cut. TRAUMATIC to say the least. If any picture did exist of me at that time, they have since been burned.

Time passed and with more of the generation fighting the same struggles, emerged solutions and curly hair therapy. It was a wave of change. In the 90’s my hair finally had a glimpse of hope. Fast forwarding to present day, there is a plethora of options and education for curly hair.

Along the way here are some tips I’ve learned:

1. Detangle curly hair only under running water preferably while rinsing conditioner out, using wide tooth comb or fingers.

2. Dry your hair with microfiber towel, if not available a cotton T-Shirt to dry hair not a Terry cloth towel, using a scrunch upward motion, this will decrease the frizz.

3. Never use a brush or comb hair when dry. Don’t use a comb or run fingers down your hair when applying product, use scrunching method adding product to bunches of hair.

Currently my hair product line of choice is Shea Moisture. My curls have been so happy.  Also I scrunch on a non alcohol gel to the ends. If in a hurry I will use the defuser, and my curls are defined. After I will scrunch Aragon oil to the ends.

The honest truth about my shampoo and conditioner regiment is that its ever changing. When I see a sale on my favorite products, its time to stock up. Here are some of the curly haired products I cannot seem to go without.

Shea Moisture is my product line of choice. As of February 2018, I am using Shea Moisture Coconut & Hibiscus Curl & Shine Shampoo

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I follow suit with the Shea Moisture Coconut & Hibiscus Conditioner

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Once I shampoo and condition my hair, I apply Shea Moisture Coconut & Hibiscus Curl Enhancing Smoothie

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After apply product I like to let my hair dry, not touching it at all. Clipping my hair up, to help add volume to my curls.

Once it is dry I’ll achieved something like this:

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I hope you learned a tip or two! Come back for a read soon.

P.S you’ll be alright

Hosting A Turkey Dinner In A Month Other Than November

IMG_3315We like out of the ordinary, we like doing whats out of the ordinary. So one day we decided to have a turkey dinner amidst the hustle and bustle of normal life. Here is a little snippet of what it was like.

Lets began with drinks, as you can see in the photo, there are 6 bottles of wine on the table. I am not a wine drinker in the slightest. I cannot pick wine, so we have a wine subscription. We either use Winc, or Blue Apron for our wine subscription. But in the other room we had mixed beverages. As well as waters for the taking.

The photo is very busy. We can work our way around the table. Starting from the nearest item on the left side. There is a ham, purchased from honey baked ham. A pesto parmesan bread bowl. A oven baked turkey. It didn’t fit on the table, but we did have a turkey we made in the bbq as well, keeping warm in the other room. The salad prepared is spring mix, I topped it in tomatoes that had been marinated over night in balsamic vinegar. Drained them and added them into the salad. I took the greek inspired route, adding feta, purple onion, and a dressing that wouldn’t be too overwhelming.

As we continue to work around the table, the covered dish is sweet potatoes, next to that is mashed potatoes. In route to the table is sweet potatoes with brown sugar, and marshmallows.

This meal was so filling and time consuming to make, for dessert we took the take-out route. There is a House Of Pies an hour drive (round trip) that we went to earlier that day, and picked up pumpkin pie, key lime, and a lemon meringue.

We had twelve of our friends over that night for a delicious meal. Despite all the work, it was so worth it. If you would like to see a post regarding the recipes I used, I’d be happy to post some for you. See you all soon!

P.S you’ll be alright

Hosting The Perfect Brunch

fullsizeoutput_e7aWhile I may host a spectacular brunch, perfected in grace and elegance, I never manage to take a picture when the table is all set and the food is ready. But this photo should give you an inkling of my style as a hostess. If you are curious about any of our place settings or table runners, ask away, and I will organize a post with links and such. While this is brunch, the wine glasses are set out for anything from water to mimosa’s and sangria.

These are the recipes of the items I serve at my brunch’s.

As our guests arrived we have a few items set out for the munching

  • Firstly, a honey lime rainbow fruit salad

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  • Accompanied by a tomato, cucumber, avocado salad

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Two items that I have since served at every brunch, and volunteer to bring to any brunchin or luncheon are the dishes that follow

This vegetable spiral tart was delicious beyond what words can express

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I then made two quiches, one without meat and one with. Here are two wonderful recipes

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Depending on how the food preparation went we are usually ready to topple over. Ive taken the easy way out and made a chocolate raspberry crescent ring desert

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If I was feeling extra ambitious I will have pre made this white velvet layer cake

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This is by far one of the most difficult parties in which I throw but one of the tastiest. If you would like to come along via a photo blog of the next time I host brunch, leave me a comment and I’ll post some pictures!

P.S you’ll be alright

 

Healthy-ish Meals On A Budget; Dinner

This is this weeks final addition in the “Healthy-ish Meals On A Budget” series, seeing as this is the final meal of the night, it’s only fitting. The next post in this series that’ll follow is my grocery list and where we landed in our budget for all 21 meals that have been posted! I hope you enjoy!

1. Parmesan Chicken, Italian Roasted Potatoes, & Steamed Broccoli

To began, I will post the link for the chicken and the potatoes, but in true fashion here are my adjustments to the recipe. I stumbled upon this recipe for the first time last month, and that night I looked in my fridge and realized I didn’t have parmesan. So to this day, I don’t add parmesan. I make this recipe two different ways. The first was is with vegenaise, Mrs.Dash garlic and herb seasoning in the mixture, and I add a little bit of bread crumbs into the mixture. The second I make with mayo, the same garlic and herb seasoning, and bread crumbs. I do season the chicken prior to adding the mixture. I follow the cooking instructions in that recipe. The Italian roasted potatoes I season a little differently. I put them in a bowl with a little bit of olive oil, sea salt, and black pepper, and some dried oregano. Then cook as the recipe below instructs. I then use frozen steamed broccoli.

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2. Herb Chicken, Quinoa, Garlic Bread, & A Veggie

I’d doctor up the seasoning of the herb chicken based on what was available in my kitchen. I follow the instructions on the back on the bag of quinoa, I add some minced garlic clove. At the beginning of the week I purchase one package of garlic bread (the loaf kind) and divide it between two dinners. As per usual I will also serve a steamed veggie.

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3. Cilantro Lime Chicken, Rice, & A Veggie

The link to the chicken is here. I’ll make the rice as the package instructs, I’ll add cumin, a little salt, and pepper. Then a steamed veggie. The reason I choose steamed veggie, is because a bag that’ll feed us all our allotment of veggies for the night, is at the store for $1, I usually pic up the store brand. Fun-ish fact about frozen veggies; they are taken at optimum readiness, and instantly frozen.

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4. Italian night; Spinach Stuffed Chicken, pasta, garlic bread, artichoke hearts, and a veggie

Like every recipe, adjust to what you have available. This would be the night I would use the other half of the garlic bread, serve some jarred artichoke hearts, and a steamed veggie.

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5. Gourmet Mac & Cheese

Some members of my household don’t consume bacon, so I would make or serve some sort of chips, and a black bean dip. The complete meal would be the gourmet Mac and cheese, some sort of chip or food delivery mechanism for the black bean dip to get from the plate to your mouth.

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6. Ramen w/hard boiled eggs

I couldn’t site a recipe that matched what I had in mind. Ramen noodles, $1.94 for a 12 pack. Soy sauce. Canned corn. If you can get it, some green onion. Served with hard boiled eggs. If you are following my breakfast, lunch, and dinner grocery list for the week, you’ll already have flax seeds to add on top for some extra nutrients.

7. Green Chile Chicken Enchiladas

I couldn’t seem to sight a recipe for this meal either. I use canned green Chile enchiladas sauce, corn tortillas, I divide one large can of sauce between mixing the chicken and topping the enchiladas once they are in the pan, add some cheese and voila!

This brings us to the end of our time together. We’ve talked about breakfast, lunch, and dinner. 21 meals that work for me and my family. I now ask you to join me to see the shopping list for all these items. That post will be up shortly. I look forward to hearing how you liked this healthy-ish meal plan.

P.S you’ll be alright

Healthy-ish Meals On A Budget; Lunch

As promised here I present to you part 2 in my series “Healthy-ish Meals On A Budget”. Today I will be sharing with you 7 lunch recommendations. At the end of this series I will be sharing my shopping list with totals to include the 21 meals, we’ll have discussed in total. All of my meal recommendations will share the same ingredients as to help save money, making almost all of my ingredients multi-use. A disclaimer that I did not add last time (as it did not apply) is that we rarely eat meat outside of chicken and turkey, occasionally we will include bacon in a recipe. I think almost, if not all my recipes would allow the meat to be substituted with another meat to fit your families taste buds or diet restrictions. On we go..

  1. Turkey Taco Lettuce Wrap

In the area in which I live ground chicken is usually on sale, a pound of lean ground turkey is under $3. I will make thin patties with them or cook it the same I would ground beef in a pan. In my shopping cart will be lettuce like the recipe describes, as well as whole wheat or multi grain bread, depending on sales possibly a wrap or flatbread. Something to take note of is grocery store bakeries have bread that goes on sale, making it less than $1. Buy that and freeze it (air tight) and use it through out the week. The recipe that I am sharing will work with any or the bread, wrap, outer shell that you would like to use. I would say I could make this recipe for less than $8 for 4 people, seeing as that almost all of these ingredients will be used in another recipe, if not more.

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2. Monte Cristo Inspired Chicken Sandwich

I won’t site a recipe for this because there wasn’t one that I could find that came near to the realm of healthy. When I say Monte Cristo inspired, to me that means dipped or coated in egg. For this recipe I would use ground chicken, first because it is cheaper, a one pound container is under $4 and would make lunch for two different days for us. I would make chicken patties. If you are on an especially tight budget, buy a pack on string cheese (it’ll come in handy with a lot of recipes) and slice it for your sandwiches. Add tomatoes caned or fresh (again, depends on your budget), and adjust your sandwich accordingly. You make your sandwich to your liking. Mine would be a cooked chicken patty, sliced cheese, and whatever veggies were in the budget that week, dipped in egg and cook it until it is a golden brown.

If you would like a recipe with step by step instructions, leave me a comment!

3. Crustless Spinach Quiche

In my grocery shopping I buy a 60 Ct of eggs, allowing me to make ample egg based recipes for my family. A crustless quiche is made with items that will already be in my kitchen because they are items used in other recipes. Making this one of the inexpensive, yet delicious recipes for the week. I stick to frozen spinach for this recipe.

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4. Turkey Avocado Grilled Cheese

I will link a recipe below for this one, but here are the adjustments I make for my family. Sometimes bacon isn’t really in the budget, or in the plan for the week. Like I stated earlier, I plan my meals around the same ingredients to allow for a cheaper weekly shopping trip. I find we never use a whole package of bacon and end up wasting too much of it. So I do not include bacon in my recipe. I will have already purchased my multi grain bread on sale from the grocery store bakery, I will use that for the bread. In my home it is a necessity to have avocado on hand. I do include avocado when I make this recipe. To save money I will use the sliced string cheese, if I didn’t have any shredded cheese left over from other recipes, or if my recipes didn’t call for cheese that week.

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5. Turkey Bruschetta Panini

Depending on what was on sale that week at the grocery store, I will either use turkey patties that I make myself or sliced turkey breast. I like to purchase canned tomatoes, the night before I leave them in a covered bowl with some balsamic vinegar to absorb some flavor. Use the cheese I have on hand. As well as some of the bakery bread I had purchased. I personally don’t have a panini maker, so I will use a regular pan that I have and cook it for about 3 minutes on each side, covered.

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6. Black Bean Chicken Soup

This recipe calls for a little more preparation. I use canned black beans, whole wheat noodles or brown rice noodles (if I budgeted for them), if not some regular good old regular noodles (whatever was on sale).

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7. Coleslaw Chicken Salad

I would call this the frugal version of the recipe I will link. I wouldn’t use the peanuts or sesame seeds because they don’t appeal to me personally.

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There you go! Here are 7 lunch recipes in my “Healthy-ish Meals On A Budget” series. The next instillation will be very soon, which will be the dinner post! Play around with these recipes, adjust them to your liking, and your budget. There are definitely ways to be more budget savvy with some of these recipes.

I hope you enjoy.

P.S you’ll be alright

Healthy-ish Meal On A Budget; Breakfast Addition

I composed a list of 21 healthy-ish meal ideas. 7 for breakfast, 7 for lunch, and 7 for dinner. Posting each category separately. Reading all three posts will be important, they all share the same primary ingredients, which will aid in saving money. I will be making a series on my blog regarding meal planning, plans that reflect an extremely tight grocery budget of $50 a week, that will contain meals you’ll actually want to eat. To a list that reflects a happy medium of budget strapped or budget conscious, all the while still being health conscious (where we are at today), to everything in between.

We are a family of five, including my toddler grandson I care for 4-5 days out of the week, so my grocery list periodically changes with that in mind. I will be linking Pinterest recipes that I’ve followed and quite enjoyed, most I did make minor adjustments to what Items I had in my pantry. A blog will soon be uploaded of my “Pantry Staples”. Let’s jump in!

7 breakfast ideas: All at a easy to fairly easy to make. With time restrictions in mind.

  1. Oatmeal Strawberry Cups.

I do use frozen strawberries for this recipe. We are conscientiously trying to be less wasteful, since we cannot ever manage to go thru a whole container of strawberries. The perfect solution for us is frozen strawberries, and we will find use for the rest later on in either another recipe or the following week.

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2.  Egg in a hole bagel breakfast

Depending on having ripe avocado’s, I may include the smashed avocado that the recipe calls for. This falls under the “healthy-ish” category. If you use the wheat bagel, it is on the healthier side, but if all you have is plain bagels it’ll do just as well.

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3.   Egg muffins

This is one of the minimal ingredient recipes. It may be done two different ways. Fresh or frozen. If you have a pressing budget you’ll be able to use the frozen stir fry (onion, peppers, etc) for this recipe as well as one of the recipes in my 7 healthy-ish dinner recipes.

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4. Frozen yogurt bark

There wasn’t one recipe that I’ve fallen in like with, over time I’ve just blended a few recipes together. I won’t recommend one recipe, but possibly in the future I will upload one of my own. I usually can find a pack of 4 yogurts that have all the probiotics and good stuff on sale for a dollar and change. I will add frozen fruit. And another budget tip would be granola cereal from Aldi’s or a store brand and using that. Between the sweetness of the cereal and the yogurt, I don’t add any additional sweeteners. An extra bump of good stuff would be adding chia or flax seeds (the lowest I’ve seen them is for about $2 at Walmart, which would be for a small bag). Most recipes on Pinterest will make you enough for 2 or so breakfasts, which will help save a little money.

5. Banana bomb rice cakes

This is yet another one that I won’t link a recipe to, I find that it’ll be rather simple to put together based on your taste buds. There is a lot of either and or’s in this recipe.

Plain rice cake or chocolate rice cakes

Peanut butter, hazelnut spread, or almond butter

Bananas, strawberries, or a berry medley

Frozen or fresh

Flax seeds or chia seeds

While you’ll have to decide if you want to be healthy or healthy-ish on this recipe, I’m sure they would both be quite filling.

6. A breakfast bake

The reason I included this idea is because it’ll be ingredients that you already have when following my other “7 meal ideas”. This will be another one that I will post the recipe for later on, because there wasn’t simply one recipe or idea that made this breakfast. It’s a mixture of a Denver omelet (which is the recipe I’ll be linking) and a breakfast casserole. Here are my instructions; make the Denver omelet with the meat of you choice, and top it with a potato casserole. It’ll be very filling

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7. Oatmeal energy bites, served with frozen fruit smoothie

The combination of the oatmeal energy bites and the fruit smoothie will keep you fuller longer.

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Here is the first addition of the budget healthy-ish breakfast ideas! Please take from this what you can, but also don’t be afraid to substitute for things you like, and also making adjustments based on whats available in your kitchen.

Enjoy!

P.S you’ll be alright

My Sons Fought Over An Imaginary Toy

“Logic will get you from A-Z; imagination will take you everywhere.”- Albert Einstein

From a young age my sons were extremely different from each other. The oldest needed constant attention, dependent, and didn’t seem to have much of an imagination. While my second child, had a vivid imagination, this resulted in his possession of a collection of imaginary toys.

The perks of a child having imaginary toys, they were free, space saving, and they shouldn’t have been much arguing in regards to sharing said toys. Well, my sons found a way to show me that I misunderstood the rules of imaginary toys.

One day, my second son was occupying himself with his imaginary toys and began to fall into a fit. Rushing over to see what the arguing and crying was about I was shocked by what was unfolding.

Location: Living Room

Culprit: Oldest son

Victim? The younger one

Here is how the story goes;

Youngest son: “He took my toy!”

Me: (looking absolutely lost at what is unfolding before me) “What toy?”

I surveyed the situation, my oldest son didn’t have a toy in his hands, but was fiddling his hands around some air. I jumped to the conclusion (my suspicions were later confirmed) my oldest took his imaginary toy! They continued to argue about the stolen toy, and demanded it be returned. Which I then in turn made him return the imaginary toy. Oh, the joys and sanity of motherhood.

Picture what this would look like; fighting over a toy that doesn’t exist, and me demanding that toy be returned.

While I hoped this would insight some laughter, what this taught me was a lesson about my kids. A child’s imagination is something that may be fed and nurtured to flourish, that day I noticed something was missing; my eldest’s imagination. What he discovered that day was one more way to bug his brother, and it worked!

Welcome to this crazy life.

P.S you’ll be alright

 

My Breaking Point; Motherhood

“I had no idea it would be this much. I had no idea I could handle it. I had no idea how beautiful it all actually is.” – Tyler Knott Gregson

Along the way there have undeniably been multiple “breaking points”. Kids are tough! Child rearing is tough, life is stressful, but I can say I have successfully avoided being admitted to the loony bin, although there were times I thought I was living in one.  I think it is time to take you down memory lane.

My life in 1991 was all consumed by a needy toddler, and an ever growing baby in my belly. My second son was soon born, and everything was so different the second go around. The first son, was connected to me, literally. Needed to be carried constantly, I realized it was my fault. He pulled at my heart every time he cried. Yet the sound that echoes on in my heart is the sound of the laughter. Thereafter his laughter ceased, his baby brother arrived, the honest truth is he never has been good at sharing. It takes a village to raise a child, and distance separated me from my village.  Many of the issues that were so traumatic due to being new at motherhood was actually not new to so many, but my village was far and there was no internet at that time. We quite literally now live in a world wide village of advice givers thanks to technology. My second son was the happiest content baby I’d ever met. That doesn’t mean that it wasn’t a ongoing challenge every day.

I believe the year was 1998, its all a little fuzzy, from loss of brain cells due to lack of sleep. If the two monsters weren’t enough, I mean, kept my hands full, then came the third, she was the princess. She was completely opposite of the rug rats. While there are so many beautiful memories, the story that comes to mind is one from when she was two years old. Two words, projectile vomit. What was a seemingly normal day was suddenly interrupted by an unexpected visitor, my two year old had a virus. Which made its debut on my face, my bed, and in my nightmares for a while longer.

I use to utter the words, “I should have written a book”, when all the memories were fresh and plentiful. Life never slowed down. Before I could catch my breath we had teenagers. I’ll be the first to say I should have sent my teenagers away to reformatory, until they came back nicer humans, ready to be introduced into society. The truth of the matter is that is what parents are for. We are there to support our children, believe in them, but most importantly prepare them for the world with love and patience. It is our duty to prepare them for the world, because if we don’t, the world will beat and bruise them beyond what is necessary.

What was my breaking point with each child? They were all similar, but started with my oldest, he believed he was an only child, I deep down believe he still does. There were so many adventures and mountains to conquer. That doesn’t mean there wasn’t a heart attack with us everywhere we went. I love my children, and I wouldn’t trade them for anything, except maybe some peace and quite. While this blog post was riddled with what was meant to cause a giggle or two, motherhood is beautiful. If you are living a similar tale to the one I told you of, you may find comfort that you’ll soon get some sleep. “Soon” is relative to perspective, “Soon” may be in five more years. Motherhood will bring you to a breaking point more times than you can count, but it is worth it every step of the way.

I hope you know you are not alone.

P.S You’ll be alright